Get Him Out Your Hair

Us girls change our hair for lots for different reasons …

If she changes her hair after you’ve broken up, it’s game over for you pal! She’s got a new look, which will soon be accompanied by a new man as well. Sorry.

For those girls going through their red hair phase … don’t work girl, you’ve got this. You’ll come out the other side feeling much more confident after figuring out who it is you’ve decided you don’t want to be. But we all do it, we all go through that phase of changing out hair in the hope that it will help us to find ourselves at the same time.

 I can hold my hands up to being one of those people who have learnt over and over again that the colour shown on those hair dye boxes is not necessarily the colour your hair will actually go!

DIY hair dying Do’s
Do make sure you wear gloves .. Once that dye gets on your skin it will be there for quite a while, this is another mistake I have learnt first hand from (excuse the pun)
Try to get a friend to help you out, that small patch at the back of your head will otherwise be left a different colour and that’s not a good look.
Do try that ombré look you’re scared to do, ombré is an easy DIY look to go for because the colour is away from your face and it won’t look as drastic, plus if it goes wrong it’s much easier to correct half your hair than all of it.
Do try going darker, but I would suggest you leave the bleaching to a professional, after all, you’re not going to like having orange hair.

DIY hair dying Don’ts
Don’t try going bleach blonde when your hair is black, I’ve had a friend ask me to do this for her and lets just say six boxes of bleach colour later and that bright orange glow is still going strong!
NEVER EVER try your to do your own highlights, I mean seriously NEVER. I mean unless you want to go for that chipmunk inspired look. All jokes aside though, you will never be able to get your own highlights fine enough to look professional, honestly you won’t.
And finally, those colour before things. They don’t work, so if you’re standing looking in the mirror at green hair right now, swallow your pride and get down to your hairdresser. Seriously … Right now, stop reading blogs about how you might be able to fix it and go right now!

So maybe the moral of this story is whether you’re changing your hair to get over an ex, or changing it to create a new you. Make sure you consult a professional …. oh and never do a Britney!

Thank You For Breaking My Heart

 

You were awful, there I said it.

Never have I been treated so badly by anyone in all my life.
But I’m not here pitying myself, I’m actually very happy.
But you … You’re still with her, in that awful poisonous relationship where you both push and test each other, with no trust. I just got thrust into the middle of it all. By complete accident, I caught feelings for you I say ‘caught’ because it seems like a neagative connotation and I’m glad it does, like someone catching an illness I caught feelings for you in a sudden and unexpected way, through all your lies and fake affection and I sadly believed every word you said to me.

While you lay in bed with me telling me how awful she was to you I believed that she really was, just as when you lay with her telling her I was a tragic cock tease she believed you too. You had us wrapped around your little finger.
You made me feel safe. The worst thing you could have ever done, especially as you knew deep down you would never stay, when you took that safety away from me I felt totally broken and vulnerable.
That’s why I hate you .. Not because of the lies and the deception, because you turned me into something I’m not, you made me feel small and weak and I can tell you that I am neither of those things.
It was this ‘illness’ you gave me. It made me feel vulnerable for a while, but now I’ve built my strength back up.
And I’m slowly opening myself up to the possibility of being hurt again.
But I feel fine about it, because it isn’t by you.

I can pity you now, because I’m happy, I’m happy with him.
He makes me laugh and smile in ways you never could. He looks at me in ways that makes me feel so beautiful and he doesn’t feel insecure about thinking I’m beautiful, not like you did.

I’m slowly trusting him, but it’s taking a while because of these new found issues I have.
But all that pain you’ve caused, that’s basically gone, It’s more like a dull ache, one that reminds me not to fall so hard and fast for someone like I did with you.
I hope I fall in love with him, because it would be an honour to feel loved by him.
Like they say, you can’t choose when you get hurt in this world, but you can choose who hurts you.

I made a mistake letting you hurt me, you shouldn’t have been able to get that privilege.